Gratitude in marriage.. it should be the easiest thing to do considering you picked the coolest person you know, scooped them up & committed to love and honor your relationship, right?
Remember those vows you took? Oh no, let me remind you…
Will you love him/her, honor him/her, comfort him/her, and keep him/her in sickness and in health; forsaking all others, be true to him/her as long as you both shall live? I do.
Do these ring a bell? Oh, they do… then why is it so hard to show your spouse a little gratitude?! Why do we tend to focus more on the trash not going out, the dishes piling up in the sink or fighting over who is taking the dog out this time? When we really should be saying, “Thank you for choosing to hang out with me for the rest of our lives despite my incessant need to tell you everything you are doing wrong.” It doesn’t have to be that direct – it can be as simple as giving them a little wink, pat on the bum or a smile. Show them you care.
Now, this isn’t the playground and giving them a kiss and then pushing down isn’t acceptable. Make your gratitude’s genuine, heartfelt …and CONSISTENT!
Set out each day looking for things to be grateful for, and you will find it becomes easier to find them. Still not convinced that it is necessary? No worries, I was the same way.
Gratitude is tricky because it isn’t that we are ungrateful by nature. Rather, we need to SLOW down and truly appreciate all the things we have to be grateful for in our lives instead of being wrapped up in the moment. I challenge you to take 5 minutes each morning and write down five things you’re grateful for and share them with your spouse. I guarantee you that taking out the trash and the dishes piling up will not be so bad and might become non-issues. Gratitude is an amazing thing, the more you practice it, the more grateful you become, the more positivity you exude and the more at ease your life and relationship will be.
Here are three tips to channel more gratitude in your relationship:
- Pick up a little something for your spouse you know they’d never get for themselves but you know will brighten up their day.
- Write little love notes on post-its and stick it on to the mirror, computer, lunchbox, etc.
- When your spouse is doing the laundry, dishes, taking out the trash, fixing the car, mowing the lawn – take 20 seconds and tell them to thank you <3
I have found since implementing these little signs of gratitude in my marriage, my husband and I have found a lot less to be disgruntled about together or separately. We may bicker, don’t we all, but the WWE has relocated back to the mat instead of the Bowie household. It’s ok, go ahead and laugh. Try these tips out and let me know what you think!