Being an adult is hard! Can we all just take 5 minutes to acknowledge that fact!?
I’m going to lead you in a brief guided meditation to open ourselves up. To open ourselves up to the reality that life can be very challenging.
Slowly and mindfully lean back in your chair, and slowly exhale the word “fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck.”
Now rub your eyes and temples gently and take two deep breaths in through your nose and out of your mouth. Life is hard, but its ok. We all feel it.
Now that we acknowledged that life is hard for each of us in our own way – what is the best way to go through each day without missing a step or getting down on yourself?
Mindset.If you don't work on having a quality mindset, you leave yourself open for the world to dictate your life. Click To Tweet
Mindset is one of the most incredible things about humans, so much in fact that there is an entire INDUSTRY built around improving people’s mindset. The way we can shape our own experiences or life just by THINKING about it in a different manner or aspect is incredible. Pro athletes, leaders of industry, and performers understand the same concept – if they don’t have a great mindset, they won’t succeed. In fact, most (if not all) of the “high performing” people out there have a very focused mindset. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t be who they are.
The actual definition of mindset is “the established set of attitudes held by someone,” and that doesn’t do how we use the term “mindset” justice. Our mindset has a lot to do with HOW we interpret our experiences. If you have “victim” mindset (like everything bad happens to you or that the world is out to get you), your experience of the world is going to be very challenging, as almost any interaction could be perceived as a negative one.
We all know someone like this, who seems to be plagued at every turn by some “unavoidable” problem. That, believe it or not, is often an unconscious “choice” made by that person to stay in a negative mindset and to view their world through a shit-colored lens.
BUT WHAT DO WE IMPROVE OUR MINDSET
We humans like to have a purpose. Many studies have shown that people live healthier lives when they have a REASON to do what they do. If you find yourself in a negative mindset and want to start changing that, start by writing down your “why.” Why you go to work, why you love your family, why you exercise, etc. Understanding WHY you are doing whatever you do is incredibly valuable to your self-confidence.
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how” – Nietzsche
Then, once you have a good concept of your what WHY is, acknowledge it. Your WHY can come with no guilt – honor the reason you live your life.
One of the most powerful mindset tools to use when going after a goal is to make decisions based on how you would act if you had already accomplished said goal. If you had already achieved what you wanted, how would you go about doing that goal again? What mindset would you have?
My last mindset tip is to start slow and give yourself a break. Rome wasn’t built in a day. You won’t instantly gain the mindset you want, and it will get frustrating at some point. But it will get better slowly. So start with small changes in thinking and action, don’t bite off too much at once! It can be easy to want to start a better mindset and get bogged down in “shoulds” of mindset experts.
Remember, for the most part; we choose our lives very deliberately. Having a strong positive mindset will help you guide your life in rewarding directions.
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