Having a to-do list is a common thing in our culture, and I can show you how to turn it into a chance to connect with yourself. But first, let me start with a story.

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I don’t know what I would do if someone took away my post-its or note app. If I don’t get it out of my head, I’ll be up all night, unable to sleep – thinking about the things I need to do, the people I need to call, and what I have to get done. Now, as I’ve continued my self-development journey, I’ve learned that lists aren’t always the best way to go about things — but, a standard to-do list for the day or week is a great tool.

Okay, so there was a day that I had a to-do list the length of my body, and I immediately felt defeated. I looked over at my then fiance, Kyle, and he came and sat next to me. He then threw my therapeutic tools in my face (in the best way) and asked me how I wanted to feel that day. I answered him, and then he asked, “Well, then do the things that will help you feel that way first!”

What a fucking concept! Do something for ourselves?! Feel how we want to feel during our days?!

You can do this too! In doing this, you’re connecting with yourself – asking what you want out of your day. By doing this, you can be proactive, rather than reactive. Let me show you an example.


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My above example list may look like yours, or it may look completely different – but I hope it demonstrates the technique so that you can apply it to your to-do list! If it doesn’t, let me know. Rather than making a fancy graphic, I wanted to show you a real example. Once you try this, let me know how it goes! I would love to hear. Comment below – or join in the discussion in our online community!