Are you struggling to get your partner to open up and talk to you? This video shares how to better communicate with your partner, when they struggle to open up.
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Hey, sweetie, how was your day?
Uh, it was fine.
How did the meeting with Sarah go?
Fine, it went fine.
How was the meatloaf that I gave you?
Oh, that was good, thanks.
Okay, well, how are you feeling?
I’m tired, just got home from work. I’m fine.
Kay. Have you experienced this before? It’s really frustrating. No matter what gender your partner is, it is so ugggh when they do not open up. So by the end of this video, you’re gonna understand why this actually happens in relationships and we’re gonna give you a tool to help you to get your partner to open up.
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Okay, first and foremost, let’s address something. The majority of us weren’t taught about the value of communication in a relationship. We weren’t taught how to do it, so if your partner, be it male or female, is having a hard time opening up to you in the relationship, it’s not that they won’t. It might be that they can’t.
We need to acknowledge that this is not just a guy thing. There are plenty of same-sex relationships and heterosexual relationships that Kyle and I hear all the time, “My wife won’t open up. “My partner won’t open up.” This is a people thing, and we have to recognize that it’s our responsibility as the one asking for the information that we have a role to play too. I know it’s really hard to go off of, it’s fine, it was fine, my lunch was fine, my meeting was fine. Where do you go from there? But the way that we ask for the information is important too. Check out this example.
Hey, how was your day?
It was fine.
Kay, um, you don’t ever really open up to me, so I’m gonna ask again. How was your day?
It was fine!
What does that even mean?!
Does that sound familiar at all? Okay, now check out this example.
Hey, sweetie, how was your day?
It was fine.
You know, I love you so much, and when you say fine, sometimes I’m confused because I don’t know what you mean. Like, it could be fine, it sucked, or like fine, I don’t want to talk about it, or fine, it was boring. Can, would you tell me more about your day?
Oh, yeah, I can do that. Let’s go sit on the couch and talk about it.
Okay. Saying things like, you never talk to me, or, ahhhh!, like I did in the other example, and getting really upset isn’t gonna help your partner to understand that you want him or her to open up.
A better way of getting your partner to open up would be to use an I statement. An example of an I statement would be, in this case, I feel sad when you don’t open up to me about how your day was. Could you share with me a little bit more about what’s going on? Because then, it’s coming from a good place where you’re not accusing them, and they’re not gonna get defensive naturally.
So, we wanna know, have you ever accused your partner on accident? I know I have.
If the answer is yes, and you’re a human being, go ahead and type it below in the chat and we’ll make sure to respond to you. If you’ve done that or just realized you have been doing it, that’s okay. That’s the purpose of this video.
We’re not taught how to ask our partners how to open up, just like they’re not taught how to open up to us. It’s a two-way street. If you wanna learn even more about effective communication, check out the video. We linked it literally right above here. Another really important thing to remember when you’re wanting your partner to open up more is follow this rule. Ask, don’t assume. I cannot tell you the amount of times that I hear, especially from women, “Oh, my husband won’t wanna do that work. “Oh, my partner doesn’t wanna work on our relationship.” Not with that attitude! Guess what? They probably do, it’s just in the way that it’s being presented.
Now remember, so many issues that come up in relationships happen because one person assumes they know what their partner is thinking. Don’t make that same mistake that so many people do. Make sure you ask them what they’re thinking and you do it in a way that makes it easily understood. So, to help you with the process of learning how to communicate more effectively, we’ve made some awesome communication scripts for you.
They’re free, and they’re meant to help you with a bunch of situations, including ones like this where you want your partner to open up, but they’re doing the, it’s fine, I’m fine,
Everything’s fine. Whatever.
The link is below. All right, friends, so we have a challenge for you. If you are in a relationship and are frustrated with your partner giving you the it’s fine thing, we want to challenge you to ask them to open up using the communication scripts. Now if you want to accept this challenge, comment below with Challenge Accepted.
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Thanks for joining us, and we’ll see you in our next video.
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How was your day!
Thththth. I have all the ideas. It’s getting them out of my mouth is the hard part.
[Rachel] Uh huh.
All right, one more time. Rachel’s example looked like. Now I forgot what I’m supposed to say.